The Unreal Self Cannot Know Real Love

Summary: It is time to face the facts of life: You cannot make contact with anything unless you yourself are Real, and the entire project of the ego is to make contact with the imaginary. This world is a hologram, a simulation, an illusion—there is nothing out there. Letting go of belief in any and all self-images, self-concepts, identifications with the body or with the mind, or even with the heart, is the key to real validation and valid realization. This teaching was recorded on the morning of September 3, 2015.
 

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  1. I love so many of your teachings. And I thank you for them. However, you appear to be recommending cutting all loyalties to others, as part of cutting all attachments to ego. It seems to me that to be human is to crave human relationships and touch. So to attain liberation on your stated terms, one would have to become inhuman it seems. If God is love, would God not want us to take care of family and friends even if such relationships are not perfect? And you say that nothing is real in this phenomenonal plain. And you say do not fear death. But pain seems real. If you hit your hand with a hammer, I think you will agree that the pain is real or seems real. So, those are inconsistencies I have not reconciled to. But I do appreciate your views and your generosity in sharing them. Be well ❤️

    1. RESPONSE FROM SHUNYAMURTI
      Dear Questioner,

      Thank you for expressing your doubts. I shall try to clarify the Sat Yoga teachings. First, let me make this very clear: We never recommend people to cut their loyalties to others. In fact, quite the contrary. What we teach is to cut one’s identification with an obsolete, infantile version of oneself. That will enable one to enhance one’s relationships to others from a more adult and empowered position. It will also enable one to forgive and to love unconditionally. The problem with the ego is that often it cannot open its heart fully, either to give or receive love. And the ego’s loyalties are often hostile-dependent relations, rather than healthy and compassionate relationships. The only time we might suggest considering breaking a relationship is when it is chronically abusive.

      In regard to your second doubt regarding the reality or lack thereof of the phenomenal plane, I would say the following: The term ‘real’ in Indian philosophy of all schools means that which is perpetually present. What is impermanent is therefore not considered real. What is present at all times is only consciousness. Therefore, you are real as consciousness, but the world is a kind of dream or simulation, an appearance in consciousness that is in constant flux.

      So long as you are identified even a little bit with the body, then of course you will feel pain and you will suffer to some extent over that pain. Even after one becomes disidentified from the body, the body still feels pain, but there is no suffering over it. And at the highest level of consciousness, not even the body feels pain. You may remember when Buddhist monks in Vietnam during the U.S. war on that country set themselves on fire in front of U.S. troops to show them that they were unafraid of the napalm their army was using on the Vietnamese population. The monks sat there in meditation while their bodies burned, and they felt no pain. They were wrapped in divine light. The same is true for many Catholic saints who were burned at the stake by the church authorities in the Middle Ages. They withstood the pain because of their attainment of union with God. So do not sell short the power of God to enable you to endure what would otherwise be impossible to bear.

      I hope that clears your doubts. Blessings for realization of the real and ever blissful Self.

      Namaste,
      Shunyamurti

  2. Nothing but a gentle breeze over the vast and endless ocean.

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Brahmachari:

One whose consciousness has merged with Brahman, the Absolute, and thus has been liberated from all desire, fear, attachment, and material frames of reference. Thus, a Brahmachari naturally lives a life of celibacy, simplicity, and inner solitude.

Satsang:

Meditative meetings in which the highest teachings are shared. Shunyamurti also offers guidance during questions and answers to resolve the most difficult and delicate matters of the heart.

Teleological:

Information, energy, or nonlinear change that occurs as the effect of events that take place in the future and alter the past, which is perceived in the present as non-ordinary phenomena, synchronicities, unpredictable emergent properties or other notable explicate arisings. The source of such forces may also lie beyond chronological time, in higher dimensions of the Real.

The process of non-process:

Since awakening is instantaneous, along with the recognition that one was never really in the dream, but enjoying the creation of the dream, it must be understood that making awakening into a process can only be part of the dream, and has nothing to do with Awakening itself.

The Real:

When we speak of the Real, unless otherwise qualified, we mean the Supreme Real. The Supreme Real does not appear. Appearance is not Real. All that appears is empty of true existence. There are no real things. All that is phenomenal is temporary, dependent, and reducible to a wave function of consciousness. The world does not exist independent of consciousness. There is no matter or material world. All is made of consciousness. Pure consciousness is Presence. It is no-thing, non-objective, not in space or time. All that appears in Presence, or to Presence, is an emanation of Presence, but is not different from That. This is one meaning of nonduality.

The Real is also a term used in Lacanian psychoanalysis. What Lacan means by the Real is that aspect of phenomenal appearance which is overwhelming, traumatic, or impossible. We would call that Real One. It is a relative Real, not Absolute. We add that there is a Real Two, which consists of divine love. Love is not an appearance, but it changes appearance, through recognition of its Source, into a divine manifestation, a projection of God’s sublimely beautiful Mind as infinite fractal holographic cosmos. Real Three is the unchanging Absolute, beyond all conception or image.

Dharma and dharma:

When we use the term Dharma (capitalized), we refer to our dedication to living in accord with the timeless principles of impeccable integrity that keep us in harmony with Nature and our Supernatural Source.

When we use the term without capitalization, we refer to our acceptance of the community’s processes, protocols, and chain of command with the “Haji! Spirit” of going the “extra mile” and working overtime when necessary to make the impossible inevitable, as our unconditional act of surrender to Love.